Thursday, May 10, 2012


The ubiquitous sorry!

We live in a culture of apology.  People apologise all the time.  They feel the need to apologise for everything, even stuff they have no control over, or stuff they could not possibly have predicted in advance.  Then they’re sorry for being born a particular way e.g. white.  Or apologise for what they’re about to do anyway. 

I hate it when people say things like
*      'I'm sorry but.....'
*      'I don't want to upset you but...'
*      'I don't want to appear rude but....'
*      'I'm not a racist but...'
*      'I'm not being nasty but...'
*      They’re sorry for what they’re going to do. 
Basically they are liars. They’re not sorry, they’re just trying to cover their sorry arses. 

Apologising for everything – the weather, other people’s behaviour, the fact that we live and breathe and take up space on the earth?  This has two effects:
  1. 1It demeans us, shows our low self-esteem and the belief that we are lower than low 
  2.  It can make people begin to feel that maybe we are responsible for stuff, whether we are or not. 

‘When individuals know they were wrong, rude, or in anyway not nice or proper about something to someone they feel guilty and their conscience tells us to apologize for what we have done to be granted forgiveness. It makes one feel better and even though there may be times that sorry is not enough the offer of an apology is looked at with strength, courage and respect for others. It is always best to say sorry but you have to mean it’.

Sorry is often meaningless.  Have you ever stopped to wonder why people say sorry? I think it's one of the most meaningless words us humans have invented. It's a word that people use like a Get out of jail free card. I did something wrong, all I have to do is say sorry and it'll be okay again’.

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